Leadership habit 1: Don’t give advice. Do Inquire with powerful questions.

“Answers divide. Questions unite.”

Offering advice comes naturally to most people. It stems from a desire to share experiences and knowledge with the intention of helping others—a noble motive indeed.

However, if you aim to lead a team or exercise effective leadership, this instinct is one you must consciously avoid.

Leaders who challenge this view may be clinging to the leadership style characterized by relying heavily on their expertise. When considering how your followers might perceive this approach of listening to unsolicited advice, it's essential to recognize the potential disparity between your intentions and their perceptions. While you hope they'll appreciate your intellect and capabilities, the reality may differ. The act of giving advice often demotivates people, making them feel inferior.

Some may indeed seek your advice or guidance, but beware of assuming their responsibilities—this phenomenon is known as the "dancing monkey." By shouldering their burdens, you inadvertently overwhelm yourself with tasks they should manage independently.

So, what's the alternative?

Rather than dispensing advice at every turn, consider a different approach. When someone shares a challenge they're facing, refrain from immediately offering solutions. Instead, inquire:

• What would you like to achieve?

• What obstacles are in your way?

• How do you plan to overcome them?

• What resources do you need to succeed?

By posing these questions, you achieve several benefits:

Firstly, the recipient feels cared for, empathized with, and truly listened to. This fosters a sense of safety and encourages them to tap into their inner resources.

Secondly, you gain deeper insights into the person's thoughts and dilemmas, allowing you to offer more relevant and effective advice if and when they seek it.

Lastly, this approach strengthens your connection with the individual, fostering genuine leadership. By creating an environment where individuals feel seen and supported, they are more likely to follow your leadership willingly. In essence, you're not just helping them solve problems; you're empowering them to feel confident and capable.

However, breaking the habit of dispensing advice requires willingness, effort, and commitment. Remember, no pain, no gain. The rewards, though, are invaluable—enhanced leadership, stronger relationships, and you actually support the your followers to grow and increase their capabilities.